Month: September 2018

“This Is Us” Is Really Us

“This Is Us” Is Really Us

In an era where an opioid epidemic is facing our nation, and every other week it seems like someone famous is committing suicide, it’s important that shows like this accurately portray these issues. They put faces, families, and circumstances to what happens. This makes people realize these issues are far more common than they realize, and we are not alone. Read more…

Child With Special Needs? Finding Help Isn’t Easy

Child With Special Needs? Finding Help Isn’t Easy

We had just been trapped for 45 minutes in the parent’s lounge of the Pediatric Psychiatric Ward of the hospital while our child hit, kicked, screamed and cried at us from the other side of the door. It took multiple staff members to remove our child to his room so that we could exit safely. We needed to attend the mandatory safety meeting to help us begin the process of bringing our child back home.

Holding back tears, and shaking like a leaf, we went to the meeting. We sat through discussions of what to do with sharp objects, weapons and medications at your home before your child can return home. None of this applied to us. It might one day, but for now, this was not our situation.

We had been told, “Bring up your safety issues during the meeting.” And so we did.

Our child doesn’t try to hurt us with objects and doesn’t try to hurt himself. Instead, it is his body he uses. To kick you, hit you, bite you, anything that can aid in the mission to get that coveted object. Something with a screen or more food. When my Husband is home he can protect us. I can no longer just pick my child up and put him in his room when he has a meltdown and starts acting out.

Our safety plan for my daughter and I to get into a room and lock ourselves in until he calms down. The problem is that because he is now bigger and stronger, he punches holes in the doors. It won’t be much longer until he can physically break the door down. Unlike the Children’s Psychiatric Ward, our house isn’t made of safety glass and industrial doors.

Our question for the professionals was, “What do we do to protect ourselves?” The Therapist’s reply-

“That’s out of my area of expertise.”

That’s all that she said. That is where she left our question. That is where she left us. We just wanted help.

As a parent, this leaves me in a terrifying position. How do I protect one child and myself, yet still providing boundaries and other needs for my other child?

When they released our child, one of the documents they sent home stated that they hadn’t seen any of the behavior issues that had led to him being admitted. Did I just imagine those 45 minutes being trapped in the parent’s lounge with my Husband? I must have imagined all those kicks to the door and screams. Did I imagine the staff’s instruction to not come out until they had a plan in place for our son to be safe that he would agree to? Knowing that just an hour earlier he had an earlier meltdown which also required multiple staff to remove him from my body as he desperately tried to get to my phone?

My child is not always like this. He is not always trying to hurt us. He can be loving and kind.

These are the situations and dilemmas that parents of special needs children face. This is what our lives can be like. We each have our own individual situations. We each have our own issues. But we are in need of help that is often just not available to us.

*This post was originally written about 6 months ago. I have spread out the posts on Psychiatric Wards so that you don’t get them all at once.

If you would like to read more about these types of experiences you can do so here and here to start with.

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Books, Books, and More Books (My Favorite Things)

Books, Books, and More Books (My Favorite Things)

Today I’m sharing with you two outstanding books that are being released within the next week. They are currently available for pre-order via Amazon and any other major bookseller. This week’s books have very strong topics that could be triggering for some readers. I’ll discuss in depth here what these books are about and why they are important to read.

Just How Much Should Be Hidden For Modesty?

Just How Much Should Be Hidden For Modesty?

This has led me to recognize the fallibility of this idea. Men are responsible for their own actions and choices. Just as women are. They don’t get a pass just because they are hard-wired for wanting sex. Men determine their course for themselves.

My Favorite Things (A Giveaway)

My Favorite Things (A Giveaway)

Today I have a special treat for you. I recently had a dear friend design some t-shirts for me. T-shirts with inspirational sayings are one of my more recent favorite things as I wrote about here. I had her use the two taglines I use for my blog- Read more…

Life Is Too Short To Live Without Color

Life Is Too Short To Live Without Color

The Good Lord gave us beautiful colors in the world around us, and I don’t think for a second that he wants us to only surround ourselves with the most durable colors, the ones that will coordinate with the most things. Read more…

The Journey To Education With A Brain That Lies

The Journey To Education With A Brain That Lies

I began to think, maybe I am still capable of learning things. Maybe I am able to still change the world in my little corner. Maybe my brain has been lying to me and things are possible. Read more…

My Favorite Things Week 2- Blogs

My Favorite Things Week 2- Blogs

It’s the second Wednesday of the month in which I will tell you about one of my favorite blogs to read.

This week’s featured blog is Lovely In The Dark which is written by Katie Wiegel. In her blog, Katie addresses topics like depression, divorce, motherhood, God, and friendship. Read more…

We Will Never Forget 9/11/01

We Will Never Forget 9/11/01

I had another post planned for today, but as it is 9/11, instead I’m sitting down to write my thoughts and feelings about this day. 17 years ago I lived just outside Washington DC in Virginia. Friends were in the White House and Pentagon that day. Friends pulled remains out of the Pentagon. Read more…

Brain Fog: What Is It And How To Fix It

Brain Fog: What Is It And How To Fix It

Brain fog can be caused by stress, anesthesia, chronic illness, pregnancy, mental health issues as well as other things. It is a symptom, not a diagnosis. Read more…