Siblings Of Special Needs Kids Get The Short End Of The Stick
You have a child who has a serious illness, or a behavior disorder. You spend most of your time dealing with doctors, therapists, care of your child, behaviors, calls from the school, trying desperately to keep on top of it all. Everyone wants something different. More homework, more data, more practice, more care, more meetings, more appointments, more paperwork. You feel you are barely keeping your head above water. And this is all for your child who you love and adore.
This really resonates with me. While my oldest doesn’t have as many needs as he used to and is very independent now, allowing me more time with his younger brother, there are times when my youngest will come to me and say little things like, “sometimes I think you love Adam more mommy.” It breaks my heart to hear him say that. He feels that I give more support to his older brother because I attend Autism functions and show up to every one of his brother’s Autism meetings and activities.
So I have made more time to show him support by going to his Science Fair and I am planning a graduation party for him graduating from Elementary School. To most people the elementary milestone isn’t as big the high school but I just want my baby boy to feel loved and supported. We also have a movie night once a week, just the two of us. It’s become something very special.
I think sometimes we may over compensate but it’s important that our other children feel just as much love and support from us as we can possibly give them. It’s not easy though and we do sometimes forget in the craziness of meetings and such that our other children need us too. We’re not perfect but we are trying. I’m glad you and your daughter are going to get that little break. It sounds like it is much needed. #AnythingGoes
Thank you for stopping in and reading my thoughts about this. It can be a really difficult balance the needs of children without special needs and those with special needs. I think all we can do at the end of the day is do our best, and pray it is enough.
We did have a good weekend Memorial Day weekend. It was really needed.