An Ordinary Mom's Musings

Last week I shared with women how to avoid the gifts that you really didn’t want from your significant other. Or the arguments because you didn’t know what to get her and now she’s hurt because you didn’t know what she wanted. This one is for all the men with women in your lives.

You don’t know what to get her for Christmas. She’s really hard to buy for. So I’ll help you out. I’ve divided it up into categories as not all women are the same. You should be able to tell what type of gift your significant other might like from there.

First Step- Listen

We tell you all the time about things we like, enjoy or think look nice. Pay attention! We’re giving you clues here. I know you have other things on your mind and may not realize it. But if you can pay attention to what she is saying and figure out what she would like based on what she is telling you, you’re going to score major points.

Second Step- What type of Woman is she?

So it’s a bit late and you didn’t clue into the things she was telling you. No problem, I’m here to help you. What type of woman is she? What I mean by that- Is she someone who loves jewelry and clothes? Someone who would rather have something practical that she needs? Does she like the theater or arts? Is self-care important to her? Chances are she’d like more than one of these categories.

For the Woman who loves Jewelry and Clothes-

This is probably the hardest for me because I am not this woman. Try a place like Stitch Fix. Buy her a gift card for a  couple of boxes that will come throughout the year with surprises. She tells them her likes, dislikes, and size and they do the shopping for her. For someone like me who hates shopping, this is also a great gift for people like me.

For the Woman who loves Practical Things-

This woman would love things like a Roomba to do her vacuuming for her. She never has to think about it again once it’s set up.

Does she cook? An Insta-Pot is a great timesaving device. Less mess, fewer dishes, food cooked faster. It’s a win, win!

Try a dinner subscription service like Blue Apron. Every woman wonders what to make for dinner some nights.

For the Woman who loves The Arts-

A play, concert tickets (to something she wants to go to, not your favorite band. . .). A performance of The Nutcracker, or a sing-along to Handel’s Messiah.

Books. For this type of woman she likely loves books. If you don’t know what books to buy, try buying a Kindle, or a gift card to Barnes and Noble or Amazon.

For the Woman who loves Self-Care-

There are lots of options for you for this woman and for every level of budget. A full day at a Spa? Or maybe just a facial or massage. Money is tight? Buy her a pedicure or manicure. Not sure what to get her? A fairly safe bet is a nice relaxing massage. It’s a stressful time of year. Less stress means more time with you tonight. . . Check out your local spas. Not sure where to send her? Ask her best friend. She’ll point you in the right direction.

General Pointers

This is a busy time of year. There are lots of extra things to do and never enough time to do it in. Want to make her extra happy?

Call and tell her you are bringing home dinner tonight- or better yet, get a babysitter and take her out.

Don’t have time for that? Pitch in and do some dishes or scrub a toilet. Do that and she’ll be wanting to put the kids to bed early for a night with you.

Bring home flowers (as long as she isn’t allergic), for her, the table or just to brighten up the house.

Good luck!